Dear Life


People say that a person’s 20’s are the highlight of their life. It’s when they shed off what’s left of their childish ways, officially enter adulthood, and fall in love for the first time for all the right reasons. Personally, I beg to disagree. I’m turning 25 this year and I can honestly say that I still have a bit of my 16 year old self conveniently tucked away. Some might call it immaturity, others, a desperate attempt at holding on to ones yester years. To me, the 20’s isn’t the AWESOME welcoming party to adulthood, RATHER; it is the rude awakening to a life you’re not sure you’re prepared for.


The 20’s can be wild and exciting. It’s immersing yourself in a whole new world with equally crazy, confused, and hormone induced 20 something folk just like you. It’s when you desperately want to be all grown-up but still cling to the thought of being a kid so you start juggling your workload with the weekend getaways and late night parties. It’s when you hold your first paycheck, call up a friend, and spend like you’re a freakin millionaire on a shopping rampage. Savings? What the hell is that?!!

In the end, you’ve achieved the impossible. Sleep deprived and broke; you’ve conquered the barrier between being a child and an official adult. You’ve now become a proud member of the “In-Betweens”.  You’ve matured physically but you’re not marked an old timer just yet. That, my friends is but a glimpse of a typical 20 something’s life. Forever on the go and not entirely willing to let stuff go. 🙂

Now we move on to love.  People tend to brand the teenage years, as the time for experimenting. The moment when raging hormones usually get the better of us so we jump at every opportunity to love and be loved. Personally, I think the 20’s aren’t all that different. Yes we’re older and supposedly wiser but at the end of the day, we still end up falling for the bad boy on the motorcycle instead of the cute, geeky guy who’s silently loved you your whole life. Why?!!

Two things you should remember about falling in love in your 20’s:

  • MAGIC rarely happens by chance

– We all want to be swept off our feet but at this point in time, we’re too old to believe in fairytale endings. If you want your own happily ever after, you have to work at your relationship. The rest of it will just click into place when the time is right.

  • The cute guy isn’t always the perfect pick

– Being cute is a huge PLUS but being able to laugh at witty jokes and having meaningful and deep conversations beats ogling a guy any day. Dating the hot jock is sooo 5 years ago!

“So fine. You’re going to fall in love with The One. You’re going to fall in love with someone who will make sense beyond college or a job or a particular season. They’ll make sense forever and won’t ever want to leave you behind. I’m telling you this not because it’s true but because it NEEDS to be true. Everyone is entitled to this kind of love, so why not? Have it. It’s yours. Blow out the candles on your 30th birthday, holding their hand, and let out an exhale that’s been waiting for ten years.”

– Thought Catalog


So there… I guess being in your 20’s isn’t such a bad thing.

Is it hard? Yeah it is.

Do you sometimes wish you could curl up into a ball and disappear? Yeah you do.

It may sound like such a cliché but it’s all about the decisions you make! Technically, your 20’s map out the rest of your life. It’s never too late to change but it gets pretty damn hard when you’re so use to falling into the same patterns.

To sum it all up, the 20’s are about figuring out what you wanna do and who you wanna be for the rest of your life.

It’s about killing the drama of the past, toning down unrealistic expectations and grabbing every opportunity that comes a’ knockin.

It’s also about looking back and choosing what to take along your journey and what to leave behind.

The 20’s is about embracing all the jumbled up emotions you have and making them a part of you instead of shoving them away.

It’s about acceptance and about making room for the real you to come out and play the game. 🙂

“It’s about a girl who is on the cusp of becoming someone.. A girl who may not know what she wants right now, and she may not know who she is right now, but who deserves the chance to find out.”

-Jodi Picoult

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9 thoughts on “20

  1. People (*cough*seniors*cough*) dramatically overestimate the ease of life of the 20-something’s. They think that we’ve got it all and we just have to reach out and grab it. Ha!

    I think I did pretty well in my 20’s (I’m on the last year of them now) but it was NOT easy. With all the education that’s crammed down our throats as we grow, we’re terribly unprepared for the important stuff that will actually get us through adulthood. Yeah, we learn history and literature and how to hate physical education, but no one teaches us financial responsibility, how to ace an interview, time management, what to do when the economy says “screw you” and takes away the job you spent four years and $60,000 to obtain.

    To me, the 20’s are the years to have a nervous breakdown and realize that you have no idea what you’re doing. Unfortunate, but true!

    • AMEN TO THAT!!! I’m nearing the halfway mark and I’m going bonkers! KUDOS to you for trudging on! 😀 I’m willing to be it was far from easy!

      • Oh that’s for sure! lol I was doing pretty good until 27, when the mill that my husband and I both worked at shut down out of the blue. We had only bought our house less than two years previous and had a less-than-1-year-old at the time. It was the “OH MY GOD WHAT DO WE DOOOOOO?!?!?!” time of life, definitely!

      • But I’m assuming you got through it okay which is a blessing nonetheless! 29 is a milestone! HURRAY for you both! 😀

      • Oh yes, we managed to figure it all out and we’re actually ahead now, amazingly!
        Thanks for the HURRAY! lol That seriously made me giggle.

        (Which, by the way, reminds me: all adults should be at least 15% kid at heart, in my opinion. ^_~)

      • I agree 110%! This exchange made this post so worth it! So nice of you to take time out to read it. Thanks so much Tracy! 🙂

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